A WOMAN: IF ONLY SHE CAN DISCOVER HERSELF

 MARGARET SANGER starkly says "No woman can call herself free, who does not own and control her body. No woman can call herself free until she can choose consciously what she wants"

A woman wants more - the love, the care, the happiness, the attention; she wants all eyes on her, she wants that beauty that radiates around skin, that shines like crystal light, as pure as water and very intimidating with her  __you know?😂😂..let's get serious now😊, but come to think of it, something is not adding up. There is something lacking in her life that is refusing to complete her. There exists an inner conflict between her spirit and her mind. Her mind wants "yellow" her spirit wants "green" but her body is going for "purple"🍑.

Inwardly, she is like a walking corpse that needs to be saved before it becomes a buried corpse. She wants that peace, she craves for it passionately, she wants to be called virtuous, she wants to be called perfect, she wants it all the Beauty, the Busts, the Bums, the killer Hips, the Straight Legs. The perfect curves and shape and in that 'process', she forgot her true herself, she forgot her soul and dives into another kind of soul although in the same body. She has forgotten her nature, she has forgotten how cute she is when trying to act serious. How pretty she is when smiling. In her quest for physical beauty, she has forgotten her inner beauty therefore losing her peace.

Painfully, she thought she does not have it all but what she does not know is in herself she has it all. She is supposed to bring out the confidence from herself. How can she have forgotten that popular maxim that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. She has forgotten how important her decisions were always to her, in her quest for attention she is not feeding herself accurate attention.

   WHO WILL SAVE HER?

The apt answer to this poser is not far-fetched, she need to know there is more to life than the physical appearance; There is more to life than the attention she craves for; There is more to life than the care she Seeks.

All she has to do is discover and love herself and also love her God (the mighty one). Someone please tell her that loving herself makes her feel worthy, helps her self-esteem, makes her important, helps her in making the right decisions above all helps her BE HERSELF. She just has to love herself and she would have it all. Someone please tell her, enough of the pretense and she would be accepted for who she truly is!

She would feel beautiful because she would be attractive in their eyes

She would feel pleasant because she would be appreciated.

So, why indulge in that lie?, why not come out open to the world? Can it be made known to her that she is a true beauty and no one can take it away from her if only she can discover herself. IF ONLY SHE CAN DISCOVER IT She is to be as pure as a transparent glass, crisp clear as crystal.

Can it be made known to her that she is made of every kind of precious stone a turquoise, a jacinth, an amethyst, an emerald, a platinum, a diamond, a sapphire, a beryl, and above all pearl the head of all precious stones.

Let it be made known to her that she is clothed in strength and dignity and she should laugh without fear of the future. She is Wonderful and awesome, she is brave as a knight. She doesn't accept ills from anyone, it is just for her to discover who she is. Inwardly she is a virtuous woman and she has a purpose driven life and she should achieve it.

A true woman don't let anyone make her feel less

She won't let anyone take advantage of her vulnerability

She won't let anyone use her and throw her aside

She will stand like a warrior,

make her decisions.

She is a woman, a complete and independent one!

Written by:

IJIETEMI ADEOLA, derb_eryl

A part 2 student of Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile Ife and a female emancipation enthusiast.