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I can't tell from afar what it means to be self-taught in a particular field of study. The problem usually is not with the term "self-taught", the primary issue is hinged on assessment and delivery. what follows usually is a question. Self-taught differs in meaning, method, and mentorship. Self-taught means to educate oneself in a particular field without the helping hand of a teacher, but with the help of resources and the internet. The above definition has been extended or paraphrased. When self-taught professionals today didn't get a mentor to teach them directly the tenets of what they are doing or learning. They relied solely on the resources made available via the distribution of information. However, this doesn't mean that self-taught individuals do not appreciate the input of teachers or instructors. It could be that they don't have any at their disposal. 

A self-taught, therefore, uses the available resources such as books, videos, articles, or journals in a particular field to widen his or her knowledge in the absence of a coach or teacher. 

A self-taught individual enjoys autonomy. In this wise, you are not placed under any pressure, especially time. You are learning at your own pace and comfort. While learning you tend to discover your weaknesses, strengths and learn how to navigate through them to achieve maximum growth in what you are learning. 

Nigeria, we have come comely to serve yeah
Ye our dear father land Really Relying Right
Seeking peace n' unity be as compatriots
Calling out loud: "letting let love lead's what we need."

NB:
NYSC -- NATONAL YOUTHS SERVICE CORPS.

This is a one year calendar programme every in indigene graduate of Nigeria has got to undergo by serving her before actually being recognised as a really proficient graduate within the jurisdictions of the country.

That is what Jodekss is doing just now as NYSC corp member.

Way back when life was really crude and simple, there were many practices which used to be normal as norms which are fair enough to consider. But today, should we not both agree that things have changed for worse? Should we not both have the commonality that as per relationship as a concerned instance here, many things seem to have changed for worse.

Polygamy in centuries ago with our ancestors used to make the family to be richer, better in social status, in popularity, in respect, etcetera as as the many the children the more the harvest at farms would be at the end. The less, the shame on the father as not being a man enough. But yet then, there were still meaner battles and wars in the system more serious than home(s) of single wife and single husband as parents. There would be reduced rate of COMPETITION and PARANOIA, the ones necessary and the ones too stupid indeed. Today, the case has only worsen indeed check. Life was never totally simple for polygamous home then, for any of them. I mean let us ask the JOSEPH to lecture us for some minutes we would understand and acquiesce. Today, the case is quite worse and depressing check.

Look, life was never simple actually in any type of family anywhere. If anyone told the other that life was simple in general that is NOT TRUE as well though it may appear a fact. I mean, people may guise the picture that life is simple in the public place in order for people to admire, but in the closets, life is quite the otherwise the same -- this we all do as members of polygamous home and I do not have a problem with that now; do I?

I do not have any joy in life being like this but who am I to decide the course of life I did not create? I always dream of life filled with peace and happiness for all and sundry but it would always be another dream dreamt under the sun which will never be realised ever for all or any family types here. It is just the art of nature with the universe -- to always struggle to make meet balance between easiness and hardship in life from our birth till we pop the cog you know? There we experience battles and wars as we advance alongside time.

When we have come to talk about POLYGAMOUS HOMES, which I have tasted and can write faction stories about, I would want us to have agreements in an instant on what are true right from the inception of the same family type or time itself:

1. A polygamous home is one that knows BATTLES AND WARS ALWAYS check.

2. Not MUCH MONEY or APICAL STATUSES of all or select-few of the family members COULD REDUCE the BATTLES AND WARS but the MERCY OF GOD only, check.

3. No amount of LOVE or BELIEF could stop FRICTIONS FROM CAUSING FACTIONS between one and the other in such system check.

I would want us to agree on these based on the facts from history and from religious documentations of polygamous system, there were battles and wars, the necessary ones and the ones sad they engaged in at different points in their times.

But why is polygamy always filled with this dark energy which would always encourage the battles and the wars?At times as one battle is being fought, another war has already begun why? There seems to always be rifts by default among the members why? There are always healthy competitions turning into unhealthy ones why? There are usually paranoia here and there in the system why? There tend to be SUPERIORITY complex in the system why? There seems to always be misinterpretations of intentions based on sentiment and instinct why? There would always be expectations which would spur missteps and condemnations why? The questions go on and on. And the happenings which birthed the questions are what reduce the love, faith and hope the members ought to have for one another as THE RATE OF SELFISHNESS TEND TO COME INTO THE MATTER OF EVERY POLYGAMOUS HOME WITHOUT US KNOWING IT AT ALL.

TODAY, polygamy in practice has lost its values, to me. The best thing ever for a man is to marry just a woman. The polygamy which defines that at least two women is good is not making but marring . Today, it does more evil than the good it would ever do. One good today but a dozen evil tomorrow.

There are many polygamous homes where the father is living with neither of the wives, who are leaving differently indifferently. Home, where the husband lives with one and the other(s) outside. There are some who dwell together but yet in asunder. There are some with which, between them, the children do not know one another let alone contact one another. There are so many, with which everything has fallen apart totally as the centre could not hold any longer. This could be possible in a family of a husband and a wife but the tendency of it being radical, is way too low or rare while it is so high in polygamy.

What I do not understand yet is that normally, the many we are, the merrier we should be as we develop in life. But polygamy is only meaning the otherwise day after day. When one thing increases by one to become two, normally, that should make one rejoice but the reverse is the case in polygamy today. Then I reasoned deeper on it, then I saw the primary cause is not really the number, but INTEREST which had been there before.

Fellow, please, as a man, marry one wife in order to have a  better chance of having peace of mind as an husband and as a father. In no condition should one wife not be sufficient for you God helping provided there is no divorce and there is no demise. Life is not simple really for any family yes, we all have our problems but trust me, problems have classes. In other words as finition, the more the wives the mightier the problems and the more difficult solving them gets for the home. I dare you not to even have the idea please!

©Jodekss

Good garbage groaning but still burnt of the matches it holds
By the fame it had had from the stench - it scolds
The effects it throws from the heart so cold
With the ways it rays, unlike no man's ever told
And the works it does from its mind reeking of filth
Loaded with junks, maggotted cans of milk, children's teeth
Swollen sheaves alongside chisels for cutting 'em
No poverty person can pass but those stainers on helm
With pale-some face, burning countenance soaked bloods on in
Pains they shield within and laughed well the other day in inn
Ways past their houses give good merits as they share rice
On the inside lies curious cry's, people's money sacked thrice
The garbage remains receptive yet
Its stench might slaughter but
Containers will live to choose soon another set.

©Jodekss Feb/12/2018 4:46 AM

Maintenance is a private hall with bunches of buildings making it up. It is meant to entertake just female students but to nail it all on the head, it is no underemphasising calling it female students’ village. The administration therein is not far from provincial. Located at the entrance of the university, with boulevards of ornamental plants beautifying or maybe concealing  the rot that goes on in here too. Many students get stranded and become 'homeless after concluding their first years on campus {though a good number of students do not even get bed spaces as freshmen in the first place} at Angola or Mozambique halls of residence and are therefore left to find their 'squareroots' wherever they see fit.The level at which accommodation is scarce in OAU calls for desperation and everyone scrambles for whatever space available. As a matter of fact, even finding a rhino’s tooth does not pose as much difficulty as getting living spaces on our so called prestigious ivory tower.
In this desperation, OAU’s female students’ village is therefore flooded year in year out with prospective tenants. The crux of the matter and the real bone of contention that makes one furious is the state of the space which is not commiserate with the exorbitant rent the spaces are given out at. The owners make quite mammoth amount of money but offer quite infinitesimal service to the tenants (female students). When one steps into maintenance, the sight that greets one is a long winding dirt hovering around fogging your sight from seeing clearly and dusty road which is ought to be well constructed but with contours and deep holes hampering cars and 'okada' from moving freely. More so, no visible general drainage that will curb the natural occurrence of flooding and erosion. Now, structures sprout like grasses every other day, each owner trying to outdo the  other by constructing sprawling structures and by offering better facilities than the previously constucted ones. Comprador buorgeoises and very self serving capitalists  whose singular intent is maximization of profits at the expense of the students while robbing the same of their monies with their rents.
The most unpalatable experience one can have in Maitenance is to come visiting when the rains are at their utmost intensity. Of course, we cannot stop nature from doing its work, but we can learn to stop it from getting us stuck in muddy pools. The roads leading to this supposedly luxurious hostels are in utterly deplorable states, the roads become very swampy and waterlogged during incessant  rainfalls, they are far from welcoming, maybe the message they silently convey to visitors are: “stay your houses”.Walking successfully on these roads requires a pedestrian raising up trousers or long skirts, whichever case, bikemen motorists or 'okada' men seeking alternative routes or driving with expert caution wading gingerly through the puddle of muddiness.
Many female OAU students prefer living in the students’ village because it poses less security threats than residences in town,  that is outside campus. Coupled with this is the stable powers supply and its proximity to the campus area itself. It is true the university has little or no influence about policies in Maintenance and its state of affairs; and the property is only leased out for a period of time but there could be the need to look into it in order to protect the interest of her students, her stakeholders. Now that the rent has been increased in all the 15{and still counting}hostels, this calls for rectitude, extirpate interest in these hostels, a balanced increase in maintenance, welfarism and ultimately, improvement in the state of the roads so we can at least get deserving dividends for the rent our parents get through their toils and some of us, through personal hustles We also hope when the properties are passed on to the university and they are left to be overseen by the university management, we hope to see visible changes and better welfare packages as the mother hen has now taken over tending her own chicks, the hawks must sway.

About the author: 

Omolola Afolabi is an arts enthusiast,a social critic,a broadcast and print journalist and a budding academic,she currently studies at Obafemi Awolowo University.