What If I Get Tired? 😩

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Pessimism 'kills' naturally; however, assuming the role of pessimists in situations where you can't define or accurately tell what the future holds in relationships is key. A pessimist believes and foresees the tendency for the worst to happen even before they occur. He could smell the dead rat before it was killed. In truth, no one wants to see pessimists or assume it, yet we always play the role of pessimists in relationships. Of the common ones is love relationships. Does this make you a bad person? Oh no! You are not. You are just a human who wants to find reasons to love even when it is not convenient.

Hey, you, are you saying I am in a relationship inconvenience!? That's not what I'm saying. I meant that the power of love compels us to love sometimes unconditionally. Thus, pessimism is a state of weariness in a relationship. No one would admit this because the word "pessimism" sounds harsh and so uncalled for. Sit and 'lemme' explain...

Initial 'gra gra' in a relationship will motivate you to go the extra mile(s) for your partner. Often, you wouldn't mind absurd things for them. The tempo of your love is high and obviously can't go down. But how do we explain the weariness or the feeling of tiredness? Is it your partner? Or the feeling of boredom in the relationship? Well, sometimes it is none of the above. Suffice to say that your partner couldn't have been the problem but the "pessimistic syndrome" in the form of weariness or tiredness. Hence, "pessimistic syndrome" in this context or article means the state of tiredness.

It is like some people to feel tired. This set of people would always reiterate that they are tired even when they aren't stressed in any way. Also, when they have everything working out for them. They can't just trace why they feel the way they feel. Yet, these people crave relationships and cannot sustain them. People with this syndrome find it hard to keep relationships, and as their nature is, they only get to enjoy the thrills of a relationship for a while before they begin to react.

The efficient way to keep dealing with this feeling of tiredness is to:

• Spice your relationship up.
• Collaborate with your partner or friend to help overcome your pessimistic syndrome.
• Let them know what interest you and find ways to navigate through them. 

Positive Relationship Breaks: this might get out awkward, but taking a break in your relationship can help you evaluate your personality while you are with your partner and helps to discover yourself and how to do better in the relationship. I read somewhere that "love goes on holiday" (this idea sounds scary as it can lead to a breakup if not carefully handled). 

Erase unrealistic expectations. Expectations of what you want your partner to be can often make you feel tired, especially when they don't meet up with what you have stored up in your head. Separate your expectations from the person and enjoy what your partner can do for you positively. 

Thrive to become a better version of yourself. We are often not engaged; we tend to focus on our partners. Change the narrative and engage yourself in something tangible that would make your partner or friends love you more and value you.

You must take care of this feeling if you've noticed this feeling of tiredness. There are no strict rules or ways to overcome it, but with these a few points, you can defeat the feeling before it deprives you of a good relationship and friendship. However, the best way to deal with this is communication. Let your partner know you tend to feel tired, and together, you both, like lovers or a group of friends, can overcome the cost of losing each other to 'pessimistic syndrome.'

By Boluwatife Oladipo