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Well, I think the highest form of intelligence is observing others or things deliberately without considering the past understandings, experiences, or histories you have about the person or thing. If possible, that is probably the highest form of objectivity -to put yourself as a stranger to someone or something you know so well. Why is this necessary? It will likely help to have listening ears when assessing and judging when it is most needed. Well, I don't know whether to call this pretense or a required deliberate reaction in pursuit of objectivity. I don't think it is possible to be 100 percent objective. -Odunayo Areyemi (thought and written by human based on a certain level of knowledge)

ChatGPT-4 thought/reaction on the above, below: 

"I find your perspective thought-provoking and worthy of deeper exploration. Your proposition that the highest form of intelligence is deliberate observation, unclouded by previous experiences or preconceived notions, poses an intriguing concept. It resonates with the principles of mindfulness and equanimity, which emphasize the importance of being present and non-judgmental in our perceptions.

Indeed, this approach might enhance our ability to truly listen and make more objective judgments when needed. As you've pointed out, it's a delicate balance between maintaining a sense of objectivity and avoiding the realm of pretense. Maintaining authenticity in our relationships and interactions, while also striving for objectivity, is indeed a challenge.

As for the question of absolute objectivity, I agree with your assessment. Our understanding of the world is inherently subjective, as it is shaped by our individual experiences, cognitive biases, and personal values. As such, complete objectivity may be more of an ideal to strive towards rather than an achievable state.

In summary, your notion invites us to consider how conscious, deliberate observation could potentially enhance our understanding of the world and our relationships with others. It prompts us to seek a balance between past experiences, which guide and inform us, and an open-minded approach to each new interaction, free from the constraints of preconceived ideas."

Extensively and consequently, the above effort showcases how both humans and AI or tech may complement one another in better understanding almost anything about almost everything. The usage of AI is diverse and it depends on the user as much as it is with all the past inventions. If any invention leads us into extinction, it is because we made it (and it is because we use it to do such). Any invention can and will be used for both good and evil in any timeline. But we have to try and ensure, good is more than evil concerning anything.

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Pessimism 'kills' naturally; however, assuming the role of pessimists in situations where you can't define or accurately tell what the future holds in relationships is key. A pessimist believes and foresees the tendency for the worst to happen even before they occur. He could smell the dead rat before it was killed. In truth, no one wants to see pessimists or assume it, yet we always play the role of pessimists in relationships. Of the common ones is love relationships. Does this make you a bad person? Oh no! You are not. You are just a human who wants to find reasons to love even when it is not convenient.

Hey, you, are you saying I am in a relationship inconvenience!? That's not what I'm saying. I meant that the power of love compels us to love sometimes unconditionally. Thus, pessimism is a state of weariness in a relationship. No one would admit this because the word "pessimism" sounds harsh and so uncalled for. Sit and 'lemme' explain...

Initial 'gra gra' in a relationship will motivate you to go the extra mile(s) for your partner. Often, you wouldn't mind absurd things for them. The tempo of your love is high and obviously can't go down. But how do we explain the weariness or the feeling of tiredness? Is it your partner? Or the feeling of boredom in the relationship? Well, sometimes it is none of the above. Suffice to say that your partner couldn't have been the problem but the "pessimistic syndrome" in the form of weariness or tiredness. Hence, "pessimistic syndrome" in this context or article means the state of tiredness.

It is like some people to feel tired. This set of people would always reiterate that they are tired even when they aren't stressed in any way. Also, when they have everything working out for them. They can't just trace why they feel the way they feel. Yet, these people crave relationships and cannot sustain them. People with this syndrome find it hard to keep relationships, and as their nature is, they only get to enjoy the thrills of a relationship for a while before they begin to react.

The efficient way to keep dealing with this feeling of tiredness is to:

• Spice your relationship up.
• Collaborate with your partner or friend to help overcome your pessimistic syndrome.
• Let them know what interest you and find ways to navigate through them. 

Positive Relationship Breaks: this might get out awkward, but taking a break in your relationship can help you evaluate your personality while you are with your partner and helps to discover yourself and how to do better in the relationship. I read somewhere that "love goes on holiday" (this idea sounds scary as it can lead to a breakup if not carefully handled). 

Erase unrealistic expectations. Expectations of what you want your partner to be can often make you feel tired, especially when they don't meet up with what you have stored up in your head. Separate your expectations from the person and enjoy what your partner can do for you positively. 

Thrive to become a better version of yourself. We are often not engaged; we tend to focus on our partners. Change the narrative and engage yourself in something tangible that would make your partner or friends love you more and value you.

You must take care of this feeling if you've noticed this feeling of tiredness. There are no strict rules or ways to overcome it, but with these a few points, you can defeat the feeling before it deprives you of a good relationship and friendship. However, the best way to deal with this is communication. Let your partner know you tend to feel tired, and together, you both, like lovers or a group of friends, can overcome the cost of losing each other to 'pessimistic syndrome.'

By Boluwatife Oladipo

Life has always had me fascinated concerning everything about it. Whenever it happens, the moments the mysticism of life has me pause whatever I am doing to think about it all, I often find myself lost in my own thoughts. I hope there is someone who feels exactly as I feel –I think not. There is no word to describe the feeling that everything that happens to us forces us to run around in a circle. Imagine running around in a circle from the dawn of your life to the time you breathe your last; it looks pathetic and monotonous, right? But really, this is actually how the world works for us all,  maybe.

We wake, work, and go to bed and repeat the same thing the following day until that day comes in, and we cannot do the next routine. In a way, this would make someone wary to feel sad. It is possible to make one reconsider a lot of things or approaches to life living. 

The world is vast. Thousands of tribes, origins, histories, backgrounds, and the likes differentiate our individualities. Is it not ironic that inside all these seemingly compounding complexities life presents us naturally, if we look deeply at it, it still seems as if we run in tight cages? Now, we are in the age of technology, and it only keeps getting better –albeit, the same tech comes two-faced: positives and negatives. Even with the addition of this suiting enhancement which we leverage for sustenance today, it has, directly and indirectly, increased our constraints as humans if we consider some realities that abound in societies today. Is it normal and comforting to be right in front of your gadgets, amassing millions of information filled with both truth and lie, good and evil, uprightness and corruption, and the likes? This calls for raising an eyebrow –being constrained to anything excessively will naturally resort to harming the person in question. Tech is just one of the primary things limiting us even as it is meant to advance us today. Any other thing that we should worry about today are notions -GREED, S~E~L~F~I~S~H, and HATE. We need to get past these constraints life presents us as we live our individualities and as we coexist with others in our communities. There is the need for us to extend past what limits us to what everyone suffers commonly. We need to expand and live a meaningful life –one that stretches out of the restrictions life presents us through its variables and vicissitudes. 

How do you enlarge your world?

Two things are involved, basically: understanding that life is indeed fleeting and time is priceless, irretrievable. 

Acknowledgment is the first phase of proffering a tangible solution to any problem or difficulty of life. Once there is a clear understanding of the truth about life, pinpointing your essence in it would be easier. You will or can then have a resolve that will clear the dark clouds, beclouding that move that will help you live a life that has more meaning than just the usual routine –waking, working, and sleeping. Once you know you have a very limited time, whatever has a beginning has to have an end, making moves on things that will outlive you would come next. This will make:

1. helping others grow be natural for you 
2. taking time out for recreations would be easy for you 
3. saving for a BIGGER picture would be a default thing
4. forgiving others for their misdeeds would be a lot easier 
5. living a life crazing to invent or create something exceptional from among crowds would be a default
6. ultimately, loving yourself and others be primary in your living principle.

Hence, life is literally a circle and not flat. It is a journey that has us take the same route repeatedly until we cannot anymore. In the process of your journey, always try and find time to come down to do things that are much more meaningful. It is meaningful if/when you engage in things that most find hard to engage in. Your essence has a person lies in leaving an enlarged life, which it cannot be erased over time, now or later. Try, enlarge your world!